We love trinities as humans. The sun, the moon and the stars. The father, the son and the holy spirit. Brahma, Vishnu, Shiva. Our lives abound with holy and ordinary trinities. As such, we like to think in 3s. Our brain derives some sort of comfort when it has three things to contemplate at once.
As such, there are three things that a person needs to lead a fairly happy and balanced life. I am being cautious here as there are other causes and effects to happiness and balance and I can only touch upon the tip of the iceberg here with my musings. However there may be something there...
The first part of the trinity is our own goodness. We must count upon and believe in our own ability to be good. This encompasses compassion, love, gentleness towards ourselves and others, faith and trust. All these qualities contribute to our more total feeling of goodness. Our goodness is corrupted by anger, power struggle, ego clashes, bitterness, regret and jealousy. We have to guard against these, for they are always waiting for a chance to pounce on our goodness and devour it in seconds. Goodness needs a lot of staying power and strength to counter these forces acting against it. Goodness is inherent and inborn. Its just that some people allow the negative forces to surface and keep suppressing the goodness. But I believe goodness is there deeply rooted in our beings. For it comes from our spirit which is all good. Meditation helps us to clean and cleanse our bodies and minds of the bad and allows the goodness to shine out. Hence it is an essential daily personal practice. Remember your own goodness daily. Pay homage to it. Pray to it, to your own higher Self as part of daily practice. A good way is to have an object that you consider a storehouse of your goodness. A repository of all your faith in your own true nature. This physical object gives a tangible nature to our intangible good. It could be a small rudraksha bead or any other symbolic object. In my case it is a rudraksha that i hold in my hands close to my heart when i pray of meditate. In this way i directly involve and invoke my loving and good nature in my ritual.
The second head of the trinity is Guru. We all need to have faith in another who we consider more learned and take him or her as a spiritual guide. Everyone needs one. Even a spiritual guide has his or her guide. Hence no one can do without one. So why deny ourselves this. This person is the friend, philosopher and guide (another trinity) we all need. In times of need and happiness this person is there to help us through. A guru's words and guru's healing touch cannot be substituted by anything else. The Guru sees us, feels us and senses us without our even being before them. It is an uninterrupted line of communication that we are blessed with when we have faith in a guru. The guru tells us about the world and the universe and about God and the greater forces that we cannot see or understand. He unravels mysteries and myths. He clears our path or helps us clear it ourselves. But most of all, he teaches us about ourselves. No one knows us as well as he does, not even ourselves. When the way is muddy and murky, he shines a torch of self-understanding. Through his expert guidance we know things about ourselves. Insurmountable problems become easier and knotty tasks unravel easier. It is the grace of our guru.
The third head is God himself. In Him we must repose final and utmost faith. Even if the other steps in the ladder are missing, He will pluck us out and take us home. He is the ultimate, the final stop. Beyond Him we need not search any further. For those who are able to surrender completely to the God entity, there is only total bliss and happiness. Since I am a seeker myself, I cannot speak with more authority on the effects of God-seeking. But about the first two, I can expound with greater confidence and belief. In God we must have blind faith to begin with which will ultimately be rewarded with real, tangible, believable faith. I can only demonstrate with an experience that i have had. Given the approaching monsoon in Mumbai, we are all aware of the hazards of falling branches during the stormy weather that is about to come. The BMC has been trimming trees to safeguard the citizens. The papers have been full of stories of poor unfortunate souls who have died in previous monsoons due to falling branches. I personally know someone who suffered such a loss about 7 years ago and the wounds are yet to heal. I was out walking one evening when one stride ahead of me a large solid mango crashed to the ground. I was numbed to see the fruit burst open on impact, spilling its light yellow flesh on the road. It was not ripe, but had left its moorings from a branch high above for some unexplained reason. It was a large solid fruit that could definitely have done damage to me had it landed on my head. I can only thank God for his grace in having saved me from injury - minor or grave, I cannot guess. But that is not important. My faith in His grace is important and this episode helped me cement that further.
Hence living under the grace of the Trinity is really something we all need to think about and practice as much as possible.